6 Secret Ways I Keep My Marriage Hot

June 10, 2014

1. Say “I love you, because…” We take turns writing at least five things we love about each other in a journal; it’s a great way to stay connected. We have pages and pages of things we either never knew about each other or that we may have forgotten. The best part is reading what I wrote out loud and watching the expression on my partner’s face.

2. Flirt with photos. This is a lot of fun. I use my phone to take photos of my wife without her knowing. Then I text or e-mail the photos to her with some fun phrasing. (If you try this one, don’t be shy!)

3. Rediscover how you met. My wife and I always love re-telling our own versions of how we met. It’s fun to hear each other’s story. Many times we each discover moments that we can’t believe we forgot. Remembering what brought us together almost always ends up bringing us closer.

4. Work out together. Motivate each other to get in shape and do it by having fun. Go for a hike or walk, or take a yoga class together. Doing an activity you enjoy can be even more fun when you share it with each other.

5. Plan surprises. Make your time alone even more special by planning the unexpected. Leaving notes for your partner taped to the bathroom mirror, or even on her pillow to be discovered when she wakes up in the morning, is really special. Constant reminders of how much you mean to each other will be rewarding for you both.

6. Have date nights. Most people look forward to Fridays with relief — TGIF — but Saturdays are really the day I long for most. Why? Because we have a standing date night every Saturday. Whether we head out to listen to music, have dinner at our favorite spot, or grab a drink at the hotel where we got married, Saturday nights can never come too fast in my book. So be sure you set a routine that both of you can commit to and keep it just for yourselves.

What are some ways you and your partner keep your relationship alive?

Photo courtesy of Chris Pegula

Chris Pegula is the founder of Diaper Dude, a lifestyle and a brand that was born from the idea that fatherhood doesn't have to be complicated or un-cool, founder Chris Pegula started a movement of making a man's transition easier, when becoming a dad. After the birth of the first of his three children, Pegula noticed that most diaper bags and accessories sold at retail stores were designed with women's sense of style in mind. Instead of carrying his baby-stuff around in a gym bag or backpack, Pegula created The Diaper Dude for dads. By merging hip styles with functionality, The Diaper Dude appeals to image-conscience men everywhere looking for ease of use. As today's dads are more involved than ever, dads can easily access the essentials: diapers, bottles, clothes, wipes, and toys without taking off the bag!

Since the launch of Diaper Dude, Chris has emerged as a lifestyle expert on all things family, parenting, and partner related. From helping a man understand what his wife is going through while pregnant, maintaining a great marriage, staying connected to your wife and kids while traveling on business, Pegula understands the everyday challenges and expectations of being a great husband and father, and uses humor and creativity in juggling the everyday chaos that accompanies his family-man lifestyle.

Chris and his product have been featured in hundreds of major publications and have been called upon by some of the biggest stars and television personalities in the world. His first book entitled From Dude to Dad: The Diaper Dude Guide to Pregnancy is being published by Penguin in June 2014.